Dating more than one girl
On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for.I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on.Better Definition As I went on more and more dates in a short time period, I realized that what I really wanted in a woman and what I had been willing to accept were very different.
Even when things didn’t work out and my date was not interested in seeing me again, at least I knew we just weren’t a match instead of wondering if I had only done “better” would she have liked me? Improved Odds If you believe that you can get along with out there then dating few people could work for you.As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.