10 funny rules for dating my daughter
A daughter’s attachment to her father is complicated by the fact of their opposite sex relationship.In a healthy father-daughter relationship, a daughter feels nurtured by her father, and acknowledged as on her way to becoming a woman.Some women possess the personality required to “take care of men” in their love lives.The semi-conscious hope is that she will take care of a lover well enough that he will be able to return the favor at some point later on.Identifying with an unavailable father can occur in the form of picking unavailable lovers, or turning oneself into an unavailable lover or both.The point is unavailability or absence becomes part of the daughter’s love life.If her mother’s emotional health and maturity are inadequate to the task, chances are unresolved grief and self-blame will negatively influence her.
When a woman’s self-esteem is low she is subject to greater mistreatment and abuse because her need for a lost father’s love is too compelling resulting in less discrimination in her love life.
Once again, an emotionally mature mother who realizes her daughter’s need for information about men can compensate to a large extent for the father’s absence.
The lessons involve, understanding who men are, how they think, what they value, what they respect, and how they commit themselves in love when attracted to a woman.
This need although active is usually buried in unawareness and sex can be bartered for affection and attention from men who are attracted to her.
In many instances, these efforts to procure the love that was lost lead instead to disappointment, low self-esteem, and further feelings of loss.